At Prodigal Son Magazine, we have explored many different topics in the women section. From dating to marriage, we have covered many of the topics that are relevant to guys in every area of life. One that I recently realized that we haven’t addressed yet is a topic that many of us have experienced, most of us have dealt with it in the wrong matter, and few of us want to talk about it when we are going through it. That topic is going through a break-up that leaves us broken-hearted, the kind of broken heart that isn’t fixed overnight or simply by moving on to another woman.

We all have had a love that fell apart and left us hurting worse than we ever thought possible. For me, there was more than one and each time, it hurt and I handled it badly. From lashing out irrationally, retaliating irresponsibly, and dwelling uncontrollably on a love that was gone, each time, I did things after the break-up that I would later regret. Many times, I severed the relationship between myself and the girl who broke my heart to the point that a friendship couldn’t be restored. Looking back, I am filled with regret and wish that I knew then how to handle a broken heart at the time that I was living with one.

In the midst of a broken heart, we go through so many different emotions. Sadness fills the heart and mind as we realize that those moments we shared are over and that is followed by the anger of rejection. In the anger stage, many ideas and plans for retaliation begin as we seek to make them feel the pain that we are enduring. Eventually, loneliness sets in as we look to form a new life minus that person that we never thought we would be without. Each emotion takes a toll on our lives, especially if our love for that person had any depth to it.
How can faith help us when our hearts are broken? We all know that, as Christians, our motto during hard times is “turn to Jesus�, but how does that really help? I have studied these questions and found three things to remember when I am struggling with a broken heart or trying to help someone else who finds themselves in that predicament.

1 â€" God offers unconditional love.“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.â€? (Romans 5:8)

So often, we feel like we have to win the love of others. In a break-up, we feel like we weren’t good enough and that is why the other person left, especially if we were dropped for someone else. As we often held by worldly standards in a relationship, God sees beyond that. He loves us even though we aren’t the best, are not the most attractive or the wealthiest, and even though we have let Him down time and time again. There is nothing that we have to do to earn His love; it has always been there for us.

2 â€" God is omnipresent.
“and lo, I am with you always, even until the end of the age.� (Matthew 28:20)

No matter where we go, He is there with us. One of the worst parts of a break up is the loneliness factor that follows. As we struggle through that loneliness, it is in those moments where we feel all alone that we tend to dwell on what has happened. Our faith tells us that God is with us. Rather than reliving old memories or plotting revenge while giving in to anger, we can look to the Lord and pray. The conversation with God allows God to intervene and to begin the healing process in our lives. As we open up honestly to Him, God begins to give us comfort and peace as we feel His presence with us, assuring us that we are not all alone.

3 â€" Faith tells us that God has a plan.“For I know the plans that I have for you,â€? declares the Lord, “plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.â€? (Jeremiah 29:11)

Though it may not have worked out the way that we wanted it to and though we never want to hurt, we must remember that God has a plan for us. He had a plan long before we were born and now is the time, in the midst of being broken, to seek the Lord’s plan. Faith assures us that there is a plan and faith tells us that God’s plan is much better than any plans that we might have had, even when it comes to our relationships. Faith tells us that, in God’s time, we will experience true joy that we are missing during this trying time. God can also teach us through the trial that we are experiencing.

We all experience a broken heart at some time in life. The thing to remember is that broken hearts need to be taken directly to Jesus, the One who can mend the heart and heal the scars. If we take it to Jesus, relying on our faith in the process, the transition to the single life can be easier to cope with. After all, it was God who created our hearts in the first place.

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