Musings of a Recently Married Man Part II

Adjustment 32 :: Bathroom Patrol

. I don’t always wipe my hands when I go to the bathroom. I will admit it sometimes I get up in the middle of the night, and I am so tired that I have to even work hard at aiming into the toilet, let alone finding the soap and washing my hands. For some reason, my wife has this like washing hand alert that comes on. It will be 4 in the morning and she will yell from the other room, “Did you wash your hands�. Man, go to sleep, I find myself being extra quite when I get out a bed just so the bathroom monitor won’t wake up. Now I have to turn the facet on for a second and open and close the soap cap before I stumble back to bed. I can’t believe what a pushover I am sometimes. I never had to deal with this when I was single, it didn’t even matter that I missed the toilet sometimes; I could just clean it up tomorrow.

Lessons Unlearned

My mother always taught me to put the lid down when I was finished going the bathroom. That was the hardest thing for me to remember when I was little, but she would say “Your wife will thank me for it someday�. The first week of marriage came around, and my wife yelled from the bathroom to my amazement, “Jason, would you please not shut the top toilet lid, that way I don’t have to lift it up every time I go the bathroom�. She rather not touch the dirty toilet and just sit down to do her business! Unbelievable, I can’t count the fights I had with my mom, and all the trips I made back to the bathroom before this fundamental lesson was in my head. Now I have to train myself the other way, man was mom wrong. These are the things I don’t understand about marriage.

Eternity vs. Marriage

Why is it that we love someone enough to vow our lives to that person in sickness and in health till death do us part and then as soon as we are not satisfied or if we are tired at working at it we just give up and find a quick fix elsewhere. The truth is that it all comes down to one sole idea in my mind that should make it easy to have everlasting love. My spouse is a gift to me from God himself and what right do I have but to love and honor it with my deepest devotion. If you look at your spouse as a gift, and that it is not their sole purpose to know and deliver your every need, than you will truly die to self and start living as one being together.

Think of it this way. In the broad scope of eternity, think of your life as a quick convenience store visit. Got it…. Eternity is to your life, as your life is to a convenience store run. In the midst of your grabbing some coffee, you bump into a beautiful woman. You catch eyes, smile and proceed to your check out. That few seconds was wonderful and you probably wish you could run into her again sometime or said the right thing. But the moment passed and should haves don’t count. The point is, in the broad scope of eternity, you don’t really have that long together, why waste time bickering and arguing. How cool is it that God gave you a soul-mate on this earth, one that is your life partner. This is a hard concept to remember in the grind of daily, mundane life but try to lock the lesson in and act on it. Rediscover her, appreciate her, and explore what makes her tick. Don’t be satisfied with a dying, bland love. Love her like you only have a few seconds in her presence. If you both can set your minds this way, love truly is everlasting!

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