Random Musings of a Recently Married Man Part 1

Butterflies?My wife and I enjoyed a great honeymoon period in our relationship. We kissed in the rain, danced to no music, went night-swimming, flirted in the hallways of College, hit golfballs into the night while the we watched the planes come in, and watched shooting stars from the football field. We still are crazy for each other, just the other day we laughed as she rode on the back of my bike on the streets of Japan. But one thing is different, the mystery has been replaced with adoration and the butterfly’s with familiar love. I still get a zing down my back when my wife sneaks up behind me and takes my hand and I have never loved someone more than my true companion but why can’t I get that feeling back. Sometimes I yearn to recreate it but with no success. The reason as I see it has to do with the unknown, the drama and the first’s that just don’t happen as often now. Those days, the distance, the temptations, the atmosphere were all set up to fuel young love. I look back at that time and smile, but the fact that I can look into my wife’s eyes now and know just what she is telling me without a word I would never give up. I wonder if love is the same feeling all over the world.

Love in the far east and the Silver Screen
My wife and I have lived in Japan for 6 months now and their relationships are so different here. In Japan, I know that people love each other, and the divorce rate is much lower than in America, but it just is not evident in day to day life here. Couples do not show there affection to public and feelings are often kept to ones self even within a couple. The Japanese household also is lacking equality. It is custom that men come first and the women are here to serve them. How can their truly be a deep felt love when you love according to customs? I am not an expert on Japanese culture, so I am only explaining what I notice and am told about their households. My wife is a true sucker for love. She can cry at any movie that even has the potential of love in the script. It does not matter if it is action, comedy, or cartoon, a good love story will always soften her heart. I want to make our marriage a true love story for her, but it just isn’t the same as the movies. Why don’t they show you all the difficult things like trying to find parking at the big beautiful white lighthouse on the beach? Our love story doesn’t always run as smooth as those in Hollywood but to me it’s the in-between loves scenes that I truly come to enjoy about our marriage. It’s the flopped pancakes, the dishwashing, the post-it note messages, and war over the covers , that everyday love that’s missing from the silver screen. I just wish that I could convince my wife of that, I better do something fast or I am going to lose her to Danielle Steele novel’s and a warm cup of coffee.

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