When I was young, I wanted a Chemistry set for Christmas. I begged and pleaded with my parents, guaranteeing them that I wouldn’t blow up the house with it. Finally, on Christmas morning, I unwrapped this big box and there it was…my gateway to mixing elements to create all kinds of cool stuff. As I worked on each project in the book, I carefully read what things to add and exactly how much to add, so the finished result would look the way that I envisioned it looking in my mind.

My love of Chemistry followed me to high school and in my Chemistry class, Mr. Sturdivant taught us about each one of the elements and how each one had its’ own specific purpose. He had special sayings, which only helped to make the subject come alive for each of the students. He used to add something to our experiment and everything would fizz or pop, to which Mr. Sturdivant would say, “Plop, plop, fizz, fizz, oh, what a relief it is.� He taught us that, for the periodic table to be complete, it needs all the elements. It is the same way with love, as love has many elements and to experience love and show love in the fullest, you must have all the elements. You also need to add those special little things to give the relationship a spark, just like Mr. Sturdivant did to our experiments.
1 Corinthians 13 gives us a list of the characteristics of love, from patience, to kindness, and even addresses the characteristic of trust. These are the big ones that are easy to remember. Here are five of the smaller elements, often overlooked, that combine to complete the experiment of love and give the relationship an added spark.

Element 1 â€" Flowers
Women love flowers and when a relationship is fresh, men always remember to take a rose with them for this girl they are trying to impress. However, as time passes, we tend to forget about the flowers except on major occasions like Valentine’s Day or her birthday. Every now and then, pick her up some flowers just because she likes them. It doesn’t have to be a dozen, just one or two to show her that you care and that she’s special to you.

Element 2 â€" Cards
Women buy cards all the time, whereas we men normally forget to get them even when we are giving a gift. A card gives you the chance to write the things that you may struggle to say to her. The card also says to the woman that you are thinking about her even when you are not together. Cards are important to women and occasionally dropping a card on her windshield or in the mailbox for her will go a long ways toward winning her heart. Though this is a simple element, it is important to remember that women love the simple things that we often overlook.

Element 3 â€" Table Manners
One way to destroy any chemistry that may exist between you and a woman is to forget your table manners. As men, we tend to devour our food as quickly as possible. Women take their time and often feel awkward when they are still eating once we have finished. Take your time and enjoy the conversation. Remember to sit up straight to show interest and give off a good impression to the lady you are trying to impress. Keep your elbows off the table and be pleasant to your waitress or waiter. Let her order first, and pour her glass of wine if she so inclines to have one. These things are often forgotten as time passes on in a relationship, but are important each time you sit for a meal with the one that you love.

Element 4 â€" Opening her car door
As modern men, we lack chivalry and really don’t know how to be a knight in shining armor to the woman we are dating. A large reason for that is the fact that we have given in to the idea of the modern woman not needing to treated like a lady. True gentlemen see women as someone to be valued and treated with respect. One of the best ways to accomplish this is to open her car door for her. I did this when I was in high school for a girl and will never forget the look on her face. I wanted to treat Tracy with respect and so I opened her door for her and her faced beamed with joy. She smiled beautifully and said thank you and you could tell that it made her feel special. There was a time in the past where a man wouldn’t think of letting his girlfriend or wife open the car door for herself, now we just expect them to do it. Some things of the past should never be forgotten.

Element 5 â€" Pulling the chair out for her at the table
This is simple, but we have forgotten this element as well. It is simple but the meaning of this simple action is profound. It shows a woman that you believe that she is special and that you realize that she is to be treated better than anyone else in your life. It shows maturity on your part and a commitment to lifting her to the pedestal that she belongs on.

Though these elements of dating are simple, they will leave a lasting impact on the lady in your life because few women are treated with proper respect in our day and time. All the elements mixed together in our Chemistry class helped us to create these beautiful crystals that sparkled when the light hit them. If all the elements in your relationship are added, you will have a woman who feels treasured and valued. Men, it is time that we get all the elements together and show true love to the women that we love.

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